What do I mean by chronically single and what is it like?
I define being chronically single as not going on a romantic date for over 5 years. This means you haven’t been in a romantic relationship or have had a romantic possibility for 5 years.
The short answer of what it is like is that it sucks and it is a blessing.
After you accept being single as the stage of life you’re in you can do a lot of things you didn’t realize you could do.
Going to dinner and a movie by yourself is a treat and becomes less awkward. Simply becoming more independent is a huge blessing that makes me feel free.
After awhile I realized I became happier and happier for my friends who find love. It turned from ‘why not me’ to ‘yay them.’ Happiness and love is not a competition it’s a celebration.
I am also able to see non-romantic love more and cheerish my friends and family more now that I stopped obsessing over my romantic life or lack there of.
Yes, I do still yearn for a romantic partner and someone to share my life with in a special way. However, it’s not the right timing yet.
I do pray for my future husband, whoever he may be. I am trying to keep my heart open to finding him. It’s not my whole life and I’m okay in the stage of life I’m in.
I’m learning a lot from being chronically single and loving what I’m learning, even if it is tough at times.
Want to read more?
This blog series stems from my book “To Love,” which has a whole YouTube Playlist devoted to it. I will also be posting more in this series on the Love Nerd page of this site.